It seems my last post has created quite a stir around here. I have heard through the grapevine that my ex may have taken offense to my remarks about one of the causes for our divorce.
First, I will say that I am surprised, but also happy she reads what I write. Of course I am surprised and happy when anyone reads what I write. Second, I said nothing in the post about our marriage which I haven’t said before to her or my children. Third, if she has read all my posts she would know I have never, nor did I in this post say our divorce was all her fault, and I have asked her for forgiveness as well.
Maybe I could have written the post differently than I did, I certainly had no intention of making it sound like it was all her fault, if we are honest it was both our faults, no one is perfect. No one knows better than I about the bad choices I made, the things I did wrong and the reasons for the things I did. I can come up with all kinds of justifications and excuses for them, but that won’t change anything, except maybe to make me feel better, although I know it won’t, what is wrong is wrong, bad choices are bad choices no matter why we make them.
We tend to see things from only one side, from one perspective, especially when something doesn’t particularly go our way. It’s a normal reaction, we all do it. We try to take the speck out of another’s eye without removing the log from our own. (Luke 6:42) But when we sit down and really think about things, when we are truly honest about things, we will see the truth. I have done this, I have accepted my share of the responsibility, I have asked for forgiveness, especially from God, and now, contrary to what others may think I am happier and better for it. I haven’t hidden from the truth of the things I have done, nor will I.
My family, like many others I am sure, has a habit of keeping things inside, not being honest with each other, instead only sharing the things each of us wants the other side to hear. I am guilty of this, as are all of us. Maybe some of us forget certain things or only see them one way, I don’t know. I do know that I accept responsibility for the things I have done, others should as well.
I’ll end by saying this: read what I have written, take the time to really, honestly, think about it, even pray about it, then come to your own conclusion.
And that is all I will say about that.
Here are two selections for contemplation, and in which I believe.
42 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye. – Luke 6:42 (RSVCE)
25 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you shall eat or what you shall drink, nor about your body, what you shall put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 And which of you by being anxious can add one cubit to his span of life? 28 And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin; 29 yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O men of little faith? 31 Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the Gentiles seek all these things; and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things shall be yours as well.34 “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Let the day’s own trouble be sufficient for the day. Matthew 6: 25 – 34 (RSVCE)